“I’m difficult to understand” is an excuse, and you’re lazy.
Communication is difficult, for everyone. For everyone. If you want to be understood then it’s your job to work at being understood, nobody else’s.
If you don’t want to be understood and just want to wallow in the loneliness of being incomprehensible that’s fine as well, I mean – that’s a mood, but don’t ever say “I’m difficult to understand” or “I’m complicated.” Say what you really mean to say. Say, “I’m difficult to understand because I don’t actually want to be understood by you, even if I act like I do. I’m too lazy to put in the necessary hard work required of me to be understood. And, frankly, I don’t think you’re worth the time it’d take for me to translate myself into your language. You aren’t worth my time or attention.”
Yeah, that’s what you really mean to say whenever you say “I’m difficult to understand,” because everyone who works in the fields of communication that’s worth their salt understands that although communication is difficult it’s not up to their intended audience to decipher what they’re really trying to say. I mean, everyone knows that communication is difficult and that people are hard of hearing.
I repeat, everyone knows that communication is difficult and that people are hard of hearing. Everyone knows that there will always be people we’ll all be too lazy to interpret ourselves for, people we roll our eyes at. But if the people we really care about don’t understand us – that’s on us, not them. So, don’t ever mistake unfathomableness for genius. Don’t ever mistake nobody-understands-me loneliness for anything other than laziness, for anything other than strange pride. Loneliness stemming from lazy pride is the weirdest flex. So, you know, stop flexin’.